By middle school, your child has probably learned to tune out negative discipline, such as yelling. And you have probably realized that it doesn’t work anyway.
This summer, take a positive approach instead. In return, you may see a positive change in your child’s behavior before school resumes in the fall.
Here’s how to get started:
- Be generally pleasant to your child, even if he is not. Smile. Show affection with a hug.
- Notice what your child does right and compliment him.
- Thank your child when he does something for you or the family. Say please when you ask him to do something.
- Trust your child. If your child has been generally trustworthy, give him the benefit of the doubt. Believe what he says.
- Send positive messages. If your child asks to go to a friend’s house, don’t say “Not until your room is clean.” Instead, say “Sure you can, as soon as your room is clean.”
Reprinted with permission from the May 2020 issue of Parents Still make the difference!® (Middle School Edition) newsletter. Copyright © 2020 The Parent Institute®, a division of PaperClip Media, Inc.